Adieu, my Bose
Sleep on my beloveth Bose
We both trod the path in the past
Now you are going alone
But don’t worry I will join you one day
To continue from where we stopped
It’s just a matter of time
Goodbye and goodnight
My beloveth Bose
I removed my belt, wrist watch, bling bling , shoes and raised up my hands to be searched .I then passed through the screening gate .My eyes were red, swollen and heavy but I maintained that bold face .As I looked back at her and the poor boy our eyes met.They cried loudly and waved their hands again.Not knowing that would be the last time I would see her .
The above drama was displayed at Gatwick Airport , United Kingdom before boarding the plane back to Nigeria on the 17th of January 2017.
Before I left Longheath Gardens, Surrey, UK we discussed how we would start our own on- line media. She studied English from the University of Ilorin, Nigeria and capped it with a Master’s degree while in the UK where she had spent almost 14years and already a citizen. Infact she had just arrived from the United States to meet her nieces ( the Lambos ) to inform them of her application to one of the Universities for her Phd program. She was a British citizen by naturalization .Yes, we were good combination, she read English and was good and me too can walk all the length and breadth of Lagos and Yoruba land sourcing for stories and she in the UK had known many places too.
Bose, ever smiling
We had a big dream, big one .Dream that was later shattered into pieces. Dream that was never realized. Dream that never berthed .Dream that was shred into pieces. I am pained .
Then the big sad news erupted like volcanic eruption in the evening of March 22 last year as my cellphone rang and the following conversation ensued : “Is that Mr.Taiwo Abiodun, I am sorry your wife can no longer breath again , her breathing is bad”, an Apostolic Church Pastor in the UK where we both worshiped told me on phone .I asked “Is she
Bose with her confidant, and next of kin Mrs.Kennie Aderiye[nee Lambo]
Is she dead?Tell me ”.” Yes, she had just passed on”, he said in low tone. On hearing the news my heart sank .I became restless.My head was swollen. I developed headache, stomach ache .I walked like a mad man .I was confused .”What type of pastor is breaking this sad news to you .Does he know where you are? Is this how to break bad news?” , my former boss Mr .Olayinka Oyegbile [Deputy Editor Sunday] cried. Yes, I was in his car going home with Mr.Yemi Ajayi, head of Computer section Sunday Desk, at The Nation newspaper .
I managed to get home.Time now 11:30pm . I live alone .Living alone is bad .It is suicidal .It is not good .I went to the kitchen , grabbed a kitchen knife .Different thoughts flooded my mind : should I stab myself and go the way she went? .who will know ? . What will people say ? I later called my landlord and told him what happened at 12:30 am .I waited impatiently to hear the cock to crow.I went to bed thinking it would be a dream.Yes, we used to dream that something happened , and would be dream not reality. I prayed it should be a dream.No, it wasn’t .
The following day I started receiving calls , calls from local to international. .And I was weeping like a baby. It was a big loss. A big blow. My eyes were swollen. I blew my nose .I looked askance. Living alone is bad and dangerous , unfortunately I am now used to it .
Ours was pure and undiluted love.Ours was love wantintin, Love in Tokyo.
Bose with her sister, Dr.Esther Lambo , Dr. Bola Ogundimu [nee Lambo] and Lambo’s grandchildren in Atlanta
I had prayed to let us become the Greek mythological Baucis and Philemon ,the couple who loved each other and prayed to God not to see each other’s death .And they later became a tree and one became a rope and intertwined .Today , if you see a rope that twined on an oak tree that is the couple .I would have let us become …..we loved ourselves .
We met in Owo in 1981 while she was in her final year at St Catherine’s Girls school .Immediately after her school
In Owo in 1981,self and Bose
certificate she went to live with her sister in Ibadan and trust me , I pursued her there. While briefly in Lagos we gave ourselves no breathing space . In Ilorin where she schooled and stayed with her sister, Dr.Esther Lambo ( wife of Professor Eyitayo Lambo , former Health Minister ) I was there.
Bose with Dr. Bola Ogundimu [nee Lambo] in Atlanta, USA
No lady came across me that I fell in love with like Bose for she possessed exemplary character , she had that beautiful face with a gap tooth and rotund body .That is the story of Peter Taiwo Abiodun and Evelyn Bose Abiodun [nee Aragbaiye].She walked gently and ran away from trouble .She was NEVER a fault finder like some women who complain , talk and talk and talk without an iota of sense .Yes, she was unlike some women who would all their lives be messing around with men . She maintained good culture .She could stomach many things . She preferred to keep quiet when annoyed and walked away , she could be confided in , she was neither loose nor garrulous.
She was unlike me a talkative, going out type, and rascal .
What could have snuffed life out of her? you will ask .
Yes, it is that dreaded monster that knows no bound irrespective of sex and age ,race, culture and irrespective of medical facilities and daily research on it.
Painfully it all happened where all facilities are available .But what exactly killed her ?
Bose in Carlifonia , 2016
Bose at St.Louis, Missouri in 2016, during the 50years anniversary of St.Catherine’s Girls, Owo
It is that terrible , stupid, idiot ,good for nothing monster that consumes anybody irrespective of status , sex, height .She died of Cancer .
When I was informed ( after keeping it for weeks ) that she had cancer , I was shocked for she never exhibited any trait of sickness at all while I was there .
She only complained of dizziness, fatigue and that was all.We went to her GP for check up .She forced me to check my BP for I have phobia for these medical …..
We would leave our baby at home and go to places , many places like London Bridge, Essex, Cardiff, Manchester , we traveled by air, sea and underground train. We went to theatre , rode in a boat, ship and went to tourist centers .Yes we visited many other places not knowing that was the last enjoyment we would have. And the questions that came to my mind is ”Did she have the premonition of her death?
We took pictures, laughed and ran about like babies. She would call me Babalawo of The Nation and she would introduce herself as ‘ Iyawo Babalawo of The Nation’, Oh my God. It was as if we had just met .
Every morning I would walk down with her to her workplace and she would call me after closing to come and join her to walk home .
It was love , we walked together, ran ups and downs like babies!
‘Taiye, Bobo T, T Bobo, I am Babalawo of The Nation’s wife ”,she would hail me .She understood me the more , accepted my rascality .
And the service of songs was held in London led by Mrs .Kennie Aderiye( née Lambo) and another in Nigeria .
At St Patrick’s church we were billed , and this is a story for another day .I will write epistle on ‘ burial in Anglican churches’
Yes, we all gathered together. Her school’s alma mater , St Catherine’s Girls school came to pay their last respect.They also contributed financially.She was popularly called Evelyn Aragbaworld among her classmates.
Professor Eyitayo Lambo and his wife , Dr.Esther Funmilayo Lambo wept as they saw the corpse .Yes, Dr.Lambo summoned courage to give her younger sister her last respect. Bose was the last born of the Aragbaiye family.Can one imagine the pains and agony, no wonder we gnashed our teeth. She had seven living older brothers and sisters .
The Lambos were fantastic, they did not forget their great auntie who took care of them when they were young.Rev.( Mrs) Ladun Adenikinju ( née Abiodun ) was proud of the Lambos for flying the corpse down to Nigeria as she said ” Ori Ade ko nsun ‘ta” ( Kings are not buried in foreign land).My great thanks to Rev[Mrs Lovett Adenikinju for her support throughout the period.
How many can fly a corpse down to Nigeria? It is very expensive .No wonder many are buried over there, what of the logistics , mental torture and stress one goes through to bring down the corpse?.It was a painful exit .Need not to tell how we broke down and wept when asked to identify her corpse for the first time at LASUTH, Ikeja – Lagos. Bose was sleeping peacefully in that trunk box with her scarf/muffler on her neck .
And the question on everybody’s lips is ‘Why Bose? why?’. Mr Dare Aragbaiye was present at the wake keep.He was too sad , very sad seeing his younger sister going six feet below the ground.No,ooo.He wept.He is a complete gentleman who hardly speak but always smile, but that day , no smiling.
[from left] High Chief represented The Olowo of Owo , Oba David Victor Folagbade Olateru-Olagbegi III, Charles, Professor Abiodun Olotuah, self[ BoN] Mrs.[Deaconess Remi Ogundowole and Stella
Great thanks to St.Catherine’s Girls School old students who played the roles of sisters, friends , mother and all in all.Many were present too numerous to mention their names.They played moral and financial for the burial . I pray May the Good Lord bless you all.
But I need to greatly thank Owo Socialite Club in the United Kingdom who contributed a lot.The Owo Socialite Club members , President of Owo Socialite Club, Prince Yomi Obasusi and his General Secretary in person of Mr.Sola Ladenegan who strongly supported us will forever be remembered for their advise and roles they all played before, during and after the burial ceremony both in the UK and in Nigeria .
In her honor the Olowo Of Owo, HRM Oba David Folagbade Olateru -Olagbegi III sent his royal staff to honour Bose. Dr.Bolu Ogundowole and his wife,Mrs Remi Ogundowole , Mr.Ademola Adetula [ former MD The Hope Newspaper , Mrs. Idowu Omolayo, played major roles to make sure she was given a befitting burial.
Thanks to my twin brother , Kehinde Abiodun for his moral and financial support.To Ulado and his wife Ibidun , GEE DEK, we thank you all.I will not forget Ranti Bular, Taiwo Lawal ,Theophilus Olowa ,and host of others
The FUTA staff and students we say a big thank to you. The Nation newspaper and other media that covered the event we thank you all for the comradeship, Thanks to Mrs Bosede Adelaja of Vanguard Newspaper.Our thanks also go to Engineer Emmanuel Akinlotan, Engineer Banjo Sule, Mr.Gbenga Adenikinju, Shagari Estate residents.
To the Aragbaiyes, it is painful losing the last born in the family,although the elderly ones could not turn up but thanks for your cooperation and condolences especially from Elder Bola Aragbaiye, Prophetess Dupe, Dr.[Mrs] Esther Lambo,Mr.Olu Aragbaiye, Engr. Akin Aragbaiye , Mrs.Funke Ajidahun and Mr .Dare Aragbaiye, this is a big loss to the family.
Mrs. Susan Ilori Famuyide , Mr and Mrs Musiliu Ayinde Adetunhji Adesina, Mr.Tunde Obasemola, Mr Jide Obasemola, we are grateful to you all .
The only consolation we have is that she left behind three beautiful children behind; Charles, Stella and Nathan.
I flashed back and remembered how we started in 1981 and hot teardrops fell from my cheeks .So Bose is gone?.
But don’t be in a hurry, death for we are all coming over there .
I have instructed our children that I should be laid by her side when I’m gone.
St Catherine’s Girls , her alma mater prayed for Bose before the coffin was lowered into the grave
The Lambos : Taiwo Lambo, Mrs. Kennie Aderiye ( née Lambo) , Mrs Dolapo Famakinwa( née Lambo) Dr.[Mrs] Bola Ogundimu ( née Lambo) were great as they contributed to bring their auntie’s corpse home from the United Kingdom
My ‘Queen’ going to her final resting place
Great thanks to Professor Rowland Abiodun for his financial and moral support, The Olowo of Owo Oba DVF Olateru Olagbegi III who sent the royal staff of office to honour her and was represented by one of his High Chiefs, Mrs. Yemisi Oriku ( UK), Mrs .Bolanle Akinwale, Akinwale Dare, Ulado, Matthew Obajuluwa, Hon.Murtala Hammed.The children of late Dr. Sanya Abioduns, Mr Yemi Abiodun and his wife, and the Abiodun family are appreciated.
Thanks to Members of Owo Socialite Club in the UK, Barrister Adesina Oladokun, Madam Asede Imade among others are highly appreciated. Mrs.Yemisi Oriku,Abigael Shanu Ojo.The Online Editor- Mr.Lekan Otufodunrin, Deputy Editor Sunday Nation desk-Mr.Olayinka Oyegbile, Mr, Yemi Ajayi [The Nation newspaper] ,President Yoruba Indigenes Foundation, Dr .[Comrade]Aderibole , Mr.Roland Kayode Joks, Engr. Adebanjo Akinsuyi , Mrs Bimpe Adewale ,the Olunaun of Unaun, Oba Obabiire , and host of others too numerous to mention.
A ko ni fi iru re san funra wa o, ojo a jinna sira o.